Aug 27, 2009

Cycle 24 # Day 24 - First Intensive Treatment

27 August 2009, lunar day 8 of July.

As prescribed, i faithfully took my first course of intensive treatment just now while my heart was praying fervently "please, please, please let this month be the month...please...."

Everyone around me ceaselessly reminding to take it easy. My silent responses were and has always been consistently be: How? I want to, but can you, if you were in my shoe? Excuse me, am i the one trying to get pregnant or you? Says who?

Two days back, one of my client had even called to break the good news that she had held back since last month, as if we were in phantom competition to conceive. Her urine test showed positive and she is ecstatic, naturally. Who wouldn't? I would - for sure to bet MYR100k on my rapturous expression on the day my urine test shows a '+'. You'd sure win. But i am grievously ashamed of a fleeting glee in my heart when she said she is still experiencing spotting. After i hung up the phone, i quickly repent and asked for Buddha to willed me power to cleanse my bad mind before i go nutty Emoticons

Sigh.... has TTC made me a cruel person? I'm afraid the answer is beginning to be obvious. Gosh! how can i? I must be happy for others, yet, i can't find the strength to be truly happy for them.

Let's just hope this treatment can speed up its potency Emoticons

Aug 19, 2009

How Bazi profiling works for us


BaZi, one of two main forms of Chinese Astrology, is a very empowering tool indeed. One crucial point to note is BaZi's usage in our modern times. Unlike in ancient China, where resources were limited (for example, travelling to the next town or village was something that often took days or weeks), in our modern living, we have much more control of our decisions and actions. As a matter of fact, we often have much, much more control that we think we do!

Understanding one's BaZi is a powerful way of understanding our destiny and life on this planet we call Earth. The static, natal chart tells us our role (or roles) in life, our personality characteristics as well as the situations and circumstances around us, whereby the Luck Pillars (in reaction with the Annual Pillar) tells the changes and movements as we move through time. BaZi is a useful tool indeed, not just for prediction of events and outcomes, but also in understanding what makes us tick, our approach to life, our outlook and our innate skills and talents. BaZi (when interpreted by a neutral, competent practitioner) gives us an extremely objective view of things; one that is not tainted by self-delusion, fear or doubt which can typically skew the best of personality assessment tests.

One of the ways we can approach BaZi as a method of self-improvement is to examine the structure and profile of the person whose chart is being read. This enables us to zoom quickly into the dominant personality trait of the person, in addition to understanding the Day Master (which tells us his or her overall purpose). The profile is determined from reading the month of birth (that is, the season) which is the strongest influence in any chart vis-à-vis the Day Master. This profiling enables us understand the main character or "style" of the person in his or her thinking, outlook and approach in life as well as interaction with others (and really, with the world at large!) and is a substantial, extended understanding of the innate nature of anyone.

The 5 types of most basic profiles (namely Companion, Output, Wealth, Influence and Resource) will determine our dominant personality and really, our "destined" way of relating to the world at large. Once we understand a profile, we can extend this understanding and relate this overall "style", or affinity, to the key areas of our (earthly) life for example, in wealth generation, career choice, social and personal relationships - information that we can use then to improve ourselves, our circumstances and our attitudes to life.

For example, when it comes to wealth, our methods of acquiring, accumulating and managing wealth will differ from profile to profile -- BaZi profiling can tell us HOW best to approach these. Some people are better at managing others' money, some are "structured" to generate wealth by providing a service to others and yet there are others who essentially create wealth from their ideas, thoughts and inventions! Not only that, an in-depth understanding of our profile will help us make the BEST career choice (which often may not fall into the majority or norm as it were) that would ensure success, happiness and more importantly, personal fulfillment. Last but not least, as we are able to assess our personal "style" via BaZi, we can thus empower ourselves in order to relate better to others around us. Similarly, we can use profiling to understand OTHERS around us, therefore creating better and more harmonious relationships!

So you see, contrary to the old fuddy-duddy perception of Chinese Astrology, an updated and modern approach to BaZi is TREMENDOUSLY empowering and extremely useful in our 21st century lives!

Toh Kong Eu
MA Instructor

Cycle 24 # Day 16 - Counting again

This month seems much much smoother than previous months. Dino dad did not take a single dose of painkiller for the past 12 days prior to ovulation. Neither did i. No arguments that usually led to sour nights in front of the TV. No more late night clients/suppliers-entertainment till pass midnight that led to abort of mission.

I am at peace with work. I am at peace with life though not perfectly rich as i've always aspired to. And two back, we had hired the local council to axe off our huge nino tree that had grown almost higher than my second floor roof.

Wonderfully, we had successful sex as early as on day 8 and 11, then the usual day 15. We are looking forward to 2 more romps on day 17 and day 19 to be safe. At the same time, i will be starting on intensive treatment tomorrow for 2 weeks.

Hopefully, and wishfully, i can conceive this month.MySpace

Aug 7, 2009

Basic guide to buy or build a house

Joey Yap says....

If you are a Feng Shui practitioner, you are going to get this one question asked of you all the time, in the most inconvenient of places and quite frequently, by people whom you have never met till that very moment of their question: "Can you tell me if the house I am planning to buy has good Feng Shui or not?"

I am sure you will agree with me that being a psychic would usually help in these circumstances since you, the Feng Shui practitioner, will usually not be presented with any information at all with regards to the property.

Prevention is better than cure - so it is always better to undertake a Feng Shui consultation of your property prior to buying a house. So, what I will try and do today is give you one or two guidelines that will help when you are out hunting for your dream home.

One other thing before we proceed, certain houses need no cure (I will elaborate more on this later) and with other houses, there is simply no cost effective way to make them Feng Shui compliant; it would simply cost too much. A great deal (i.e. of running into either of such houses) depends on your luck. Fortunately, finding a totally disastrous house is quite a rare possibility, so don't get ahead of yourself with worry just as yet.

Feng Shui - The Real Thing

Location
Your immediate environment exerts the largest influence in the overall Feng Shui of your home - where you are LOCATED is one of the key factors to consider when buying a new home. When engaging a Feng Shui consultant, assuming you have some leeway in this, ask him or her where in your town or city is a good spot to build or purchase a home.

Different areas of a city or town have Qi (energies) that are sourced from different mountains (we call these dragon veins in Feng Shui). The real study of Feng Shui revolves around how to locate the 'correct' spot where the Qi will support your endeavors. Keep in mind that one man's meat is still another's man poison - a spot may not be as suitable for you as it would be for your neighbour.

Obviously, the structure and formation of mountains and Qi flow in the environment (meaning Classical Luan Tou Feng Shui) is out of reach of the average Feng Shui enthusiast at this point in time. However when you engage your consultant, you need to check with him your area's Landform Feng Shui and which choice plots you are able to tap to these Qi.

Many people are under the mistaken assumption that landform Feng Shui is primarily about looking out for "poison" arrows and "Sha Qi" features from your neighbors. To some extent, these are the basics to look out for but keep in mind that we are taking into consideration the MACRO Feng Shui of your property - the WHOLE area. It only makes sense to pick an area that is good from the beginning to work with.

Land And House Selection Criteria
Let's take an example of an area, you arrive to find that the area is extremely windy - BAD Feng Shui. Why? Because wind disperses the Qi. In Kuo-Pu's Burial Book, known as the main source book of all Feng Shui studies today, it is clearly stated that the Wind disperse the Qi. So, if your area has very strong winds, you can be sure that the Qi in your area is not very positive, so give this area a miss.

Merciless Tiger and Dragon Embrace
"Merciless what?!", I can already hear the worried cries for help now. The Tiger and Dragon refer to the left and right surrounding hills or even houses. If they do not 'embrace' your land area and instead is outward moving, this land is one that will not be very suitable. The Qi in this area cannot be contained and you are better off looking elsewhere.

Piercing Water
Water in the practice of Feng Shui can help enhance Qi and can just as well do the exact opposite and cause harmful Sha Qi. If the water path (usually in the from of drains or gutters) directly in front of your main door rushes in a straight line, it is known as "Wu Qing Shui" -Merciless Water. This type of water not only drains the Qi of your house, but ultimately emits Sha Qi. If you see such a structure, it would be futile to try and fix this property.

Bright Hall
The bright hall refers to the generous space in front of your property. Check that you do indeed have a bright hall and that it is not TOO tight or TOO spacious. If it is too tight, no Qi can accumulate, if it is too broad, then Qi disperses without having a chances to collect. When faced with such structures, move on and keep looking.

Hills at the Back and Water in Front
Contrary to popular belief, it is not always necessary to have mountains at the back and a water feature or a lake at the front. This really depends on the overall structure of your landform. Sometimes it can actually be better to face a good mountain to receive Qi directly from the dragon veins.

Turning To Hypnosis To Get Pregnant

By Dennis Douda (WCCO) © MMVII, CBS Broadcasting Inc. All Rights Reserved.

Hypnosis is used for all kinds of things, including quitting smoking, losing weight and even limiting labor pain in the delivery room, but now some women swear the mind-over-matter technique is helping them get pregnant.

Amber Olson is a busy working mother with another baby on the way. Before her second son, Liam, was born, she had three and a half years of infertility and doctors could not find a physical reason.

Olson tried fertility treatments with no success.

"It was really heartbreaking," she said.

Olson then turned to fertility hypnosis, a new complementary therapy that is gaining popularity.

With a soothing voice and positive words, Olson said her hypnotherapist guided her to a relaxing, stress-free world.

"I felt excellent," Olson said.

After only two sessions, Olson was pregnant.

Lynsi Eastburn is a certified hypnotherapist and author of "It's Conceivable". She said stress prevents many couples from being able to conceive.

"A lot of times, they become so obsessed with it, they can't stop thinking about it, talking about it," Eastburn said. "Their emotions are out of control."

Certified hypnotherapists promise to relieve that stress naturally and release any subconscious "blocks" using things like guided visualizations.

"There's also some techniques like a fear release and regression work and then sometimes we have blocks which occur because the subconscious mind responds to something that's happened in our lives," Eastburn said.

Olson's experience was so profound, she decided to become a hypnotherapist.

"I had to help other women who were going through the same things that I was," Olson said. "Achieve the goals and desires that they wanted out of their lives."

As for scientific proof about hypnofertility, a small Israeli study found increased success when hypnosis is used. Fertility expert Dr. Mousa Shamonki, with the UCLA Medical Center, said the study's design was not ideal.

"The reality of it is that, that we need better studies to assess whether hypnosis actually is beneficial," Shamonki said.

After seeing a fertility doctor, if a patient is interested in giving hypnosis a try, Shamonki said he would not object.

"If done properly, it's unlikely to be harmful," Shamonki said. "There may be a beneficial effect, but at least to this point, there's no conclusive evidence."

Eastburn and Olson said they see proof in their office every day.

"It's an amazing field to be in because we get the call, or somebody comes in to tell us that they're pregnant," Eastburn said.

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine said it has no formal position on hypnosis and fertility. The group said more research needs to be done to see if therapy actually works.

Aug 4, 2009

Finding Niche In Career n Wealth

Mastery Academy says...

We're entering the 2nd half of the year, and August 7th marks the entrance into Autumn season (August is the Ren Shen month). Speculations are rife that the conditions of the economy will worsen in the second half of the year compared to the first half. However, for many people, it is also the start of the 'great sales' in designer and luxury stores and the shopping malls!

When the prices start to slump, or take a major downward dip, many of you financially-astute types will be scrambling about to make some significant investments. Different Day Masters and BaZi structures (based on your BaZi chart) will be inclined towards different types of investments or businesses.

Can everyone do well in property investments? Not really, as not all investments are made equal. So what are the criteria for someone being able to do well in property investments? Well, it depends on whether or not your BaZi chart that favours the Earth element. It also depends on your BaZi structure.

Some of you will do well in the share market, while others will make a killing entering the franchise industry! In that same vein, some among us flourish while working for others, while some others are much better off working on our own.

All this boils down to your BaZi chart, and your BaZi structure. There are 5 types of BaZi career and wealth profiles that we all fall into. Here's a sample of each:

Wealth Profile: 'The Leader.' Results-oriented, driven, problem-solving, controlling.

Output Profile: 'The Star of the Show.' Witty, confident, articulate, innovative.

Companion Profile: 'The Networker.' Sociable, people-connectors, friendly, persuasive.

Influence Profile: 'The Nice Guy.' Stable, amiable, precise, peace-makers.

Resource Profile: 'The Thinker.' Methodical, analytical, risk-averse, structured.

Aug 2, 2009

Ghandhism

Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K.Gandhi Institute for Nonviolence, in his June 9
lecture at the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story:
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I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban , South Africa , in the middle of the sugarplantations. We were deep in the country and had  no neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.

One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of  groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town,  my father asked me to take care of several pending  chores, such as getting the car serviced.

When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, "I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together."

After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time. It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.

He anxiously asked me, "Why were you late?" I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western
movie
 that I said, "The car wasn't ready, so I had to wait," not realizing that he had already called the garage.

When he caught me in the lie, he said: "There's something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn't give you the
confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I'm going to walk home 18
miles and think about it." So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly
unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn't leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him,
watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered. I decided then and there that I was never
going to lie again.

I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don't think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.

That is the power of non-violence.

Cycle 23 : day #30 - Spotting red!

Haiiiii...... another pending failure.MySpace
I am sure it will start flowing tonight. Its been proving many times before with this sign. I guess i will again, entitle myself to some pampering routine in the next few days. Its something i would give myself a temporary hideaway from cruel reality. For this failing cycle, i think i would probably want to hop on the next flight to Chengdu and hug a real panda bear for a photo. Yes, this is it. Chengdu it is.

Again, i have to prep myself mentally strong and healthy to brace another cycle. The method did indicated that the soonest possible pregnancy could be in lunar August and the latest pregnancy is ruled in lunar November. Checking the calendar now it says we are only coming to mid lunar June. So, i am not that upset. Still got time. Just that we've got to try harder in the coming cycle #24 because it's the next closer cycle to the early indication.

It got to work. I have no U-turn. The deposit placed for booking an IVF procedure has been refunded to me yesterday and the next open-promo for IVF will only be available in March 2010. I wouldn't want then as it might be toooooo late to catch a tiger baby. 
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Tiger is good for me and ok for Dino dad, but rabbit is a 100% no-no for a rooster Dino dad. So, this method got to work. But alas, Dino dad has been really really sick with over-heating internal body consecutive 2 months. Been downing lots of antibiotic. Also worry the toxicity level may be excreted out fully on time for the next ovulation. Tomorrow got to start him on Thomson Livrin 300.
Haiiiiii........... MySpace